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Time To Travel On ~ Why Leaving A Toxic Relationship May Be Necessary

It happens to all of us.  At some point in our lives, we are involved in an unhealthy and harmful relationship.  Some of us may be born into situations of abuse, be it mental/physical/sexual/emotional.  Some of us form ties by choice with individuals who later show themselves to be damaging to our well being, or we simply find ourselves enmeshed with people who for whatever reason slowly poison the waters of our soul.

I have a dear and very young friend who is going through this painful process.  I was there in the first days of her life, and have been there to watch her grow into the beautiful young adult that she is.  She is the type of person that sparkles with life and enthusiasm, but I have lately seen that light slowly dying in her eyes.  I see her being systematically ground down like a flower being crushed with a mortar and pestle.   This is what toxic relationships do.  They burn, tear, and scorch the beauty of the individual.

why leaving a toxic relationship may be necessary

It seems so easy from a logical standpoint to simply leave these situations.  But, it is not that easy is it?  Human relationships are anything but clean and sensible.  They can be messy, complex, and ugly at times.  Some of the most excruciating moments are when we are faced with the decision to cut people loose from our lives like the threads of a fabric that can no longer be allowed to remain, lest they ruin the piece as a whole.


Yet there is hope, and another decision to be made on the heels of leaving.  It is the choice of either allowing the experience to leave us bitter with disappointment and heartbreak, or choosing to forgive so that our wounds can become heal and become scars that no longer bleed when touched.  Not ‘pretending nothing happened’, but releasing that person from your vengeance and wrath, so you can move on untethered by hate.

  • *3/2016 Update~ My friend has since obtained a divorce from this man, who was eventually diagnosed a clinical ‘Narrcisist’ and ‘Sociopath’.  She is in the process of recovering from her experience, as well as seeking professional counsel in order to heal any part of herself that may have been vulnerable to the victimization of this type of person.


Recipe of the Week

~Whole Wheat Pumpkin Honey Muffins with Cream Cheese Swirl~


~1 1/2 cups whole good quality whole wheat flour (King Arthur)

~2 tsp pumpkin pie spice

~1 tsp baking soda

~1/2 tsp baking powder

~1/4 tsp salt

~2 eggs

~1/2 cup coconut oil

~1/2 cup raw honey

~ 1 cup pumpkin puree

~1 tsp vanilla

~3/4 cup chopped walnuts

Combine dry ing and make well in center.  Add remaining ing and gently fold in until just incorporated.

Cream Cheese Swirl:

~8 oz cream cheese

~1 egg

~1/2 cup raw honey

Mix until smooth.

Line a cupcake pan with wrappers and spoon batter 1/4 way in cup, spoon cream cheese to 1/2 way, then top to 3/4 full with another spoon of batter.  Makes approx. 6-8 muffins.  Bake at 350 degrees for 19 min.



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    Tina Muir
    October 12 at 9:40 am

    These sound amazing!!!!!!

    Yum! Thanks for linking up!
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      October 12 at 11:57 am

      Thanks Tina 🙂

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    Deborah Brooks
    October 12 at 10:56 am

    Wow those look fabulous! Thanks for sharing and linking up with us today for Meatless Monday
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      October 12 at 11:57 am

      Thank you Deborah 🙂

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    October 12 at 6:30 pm

    Those muffins look amazing!
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      October 12 at 9:33 pm

      Thanks Akaleistar 🙂

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    October 12 at 7:35 pm

    The muffins (and your photos) look delicious!

    I hope your young friend manages to overcome the toxic relationship with only superficial wounds.
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      October 12 at 9:34 pm

      Me too, thank you for your kind words 🙂

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    Nikki Frank-Hamilton
    October 16 at 7:14 pm

    OMG! These look so good, pumpkin and cream cheese, this is so fall, and so good! The best of it all! Thanks so much for the recipe, I am pinning this! I’m slobbering all over my screen!
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      Nikki Frank-Hamilton
      October 16 at 7:18 pm

      BTW, I’m such an arse, I am sorry for all you friend is going through. Bad relationships are hard and when you love someone and not sure about how you’ll do without them, even though they are toxic for you, it’s so hard to leave. Either way it hurts, and I feel for her.
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        October 16 at 8:30 pm

        Thank you Nikki, it is hard to watch someone so young go through something so painful. But, she has God and good family & friends surrounding her. AND you are not an ‘arse’! 😉

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      October 16 at 8:28 pm

      Thanks Nikki! Careful not to short-circuit the keyboard 😉

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    October 21 at 2:33 am

    Its so sad when toxic relationships crumble people. You can only be there for her and hope she sees the light of it soon. Great recipe love anything with pumpkin. Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me. I hope to see you again this week for another great round of #sharewithme
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      October 21 at 8:46 am

      Thank you Jenny, have a wonderful week 🙂

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    October 21 at 11:16 am

    These look scrumptious!! Thanks for linking up on My 2 Favorite Things on Thursday. Hope to see you again! Pinned!
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      October 21 at 5:00 pm

      Thanks Elaine 😉

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    Deborah Davis
    October 21 at 3:10 pm

    Hi Kristine,
    Been there, done that! I know how it feels to come to a point where we decide to move on and leave toxic relationshiops behind so I am delighted that you shared “Time To Travel On ~ Leaving Toxic Relationships Behind You” and your healthy and delicious whole wheat pumpkin muffins with us on the Plant-based Potluck Party. I appreciate it and I’m so glad you are partying with us. I’m pinning and sharing this!
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      October 21 at 5:00 pm

      Thank you so much Deborah! Have a wonderful day! 🙂

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