If you never stop building it.
I was recently asked if I had any advice for the parents of young children in our church. You may be surprised at what that advice was. It had nothing to do with spending quality time with your kids, or the pros and cons of home schooling. My advice was this; work on your marriage.
“D” and I have been married for 29 years. About 16 years ago, a counselor told us that children were the ‘leaving’ part of the marriage. That stuck with us, and although we love our two boys with all our hearts, we parented with that thought in mind. We poured blood, sweat, and tears into our marriage relationship. Now we are about to be ’empty nesters’. Although there is a sense of sadness that our time living with the boys is over, there is also an excitement we feel knowing it’s the ‘two of us’ again, only much better than when we first began.
Which brings me to my ‘moment’ for the week. ‘D’ and I were shopping the other day with our youngest. We were wandering the aisles of Costco, when I realized we were ‘together’ just enjoying each other’s company. It was a bittersweet moment knowing time spent like that was soon coming to an end.
Our two sons are men of excellent character and integrity. We let them go knowing we’ve been imperfect parents who failed them many times, but loved them with all we had. Now we turn to each other and plan the next phase of our lives…together.
~Fresh Pineapple Smoothie w/Black Berry Compote~
~2 pints fresh blackberries
~2 tsp water
~1 tbsp. raw organic honey
Cook over low heat stirring often until starts to thicken. Refrigerate.
~fresh pineapple core (the part you normally throw away), frozen
~1 cup coconut or almond milk
~1/2 tbsp. ground flax seed (optional)
~4 ice cubes
Blend on high until smooth and top with cold compote.