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How ‘Personality’ Helps Me With My Chronic Illness ~ How ‘Personality’ Can Help You Cope With Chronic Illness

What do you think of when you hear the word ‘introvert’?  Does it bring to mind images of maladjusted loners locked within the confines of dimly lit, book crammed rooms?  Or, perhaps you picture a curmudgeon  of indeterminate age angrily peering through grimy blinds, and muttering curses at the ‘goings on’ of the world outside?

‘Introvert’ is actually a termed coined by psychologist Carl Jung to describe the way a person functions internally with the external world.  For instance, an extrovert is energized by interactions with people.  You know, those individuals who love parties, going places, and making as many friends as possible.  As opposed to the introvert whose energy levels are drained by prolonged social interaction, and need solitude to ‘recharge’ their batteries.

There are varying degrees of introversion.  If 10 was extremely introverted, and 1 was ‘might as well go out for a drink with your ‘extraverted’ friends’, I would be a number 9.  I am not a reclusive hermit, but the exposure I need to other people is very limited.  I have always been quite content to spend the majority of my time alone.  There’s a difference between being ‘lonely’ and being ‘alone’.  Simply put,  I love solitude.


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Needless to say, being an introvert and having a chronic illness makes it a little easier to take.  I find myself spending a lot of time at home and out of most social spheres.  Um, so, what exactly is the problem?



How 'personality' can help you cope with chronic illness

Recipe Of The Week #2


~Black & Blueberry Tart with Whole Wheat Walnut Crust~


~3/4 cup finely chopped toasted walnuts

~3/4 cup good quality whole wheat flour (King Arthur), or GF all purpose flour

~1/4 cup raw organic honey

~1 egg yolk

~6 tbsp. melted butter

Combine all in bowl and press into a 8 in spring form pan.  Bake at 400 degrees for 10 min.


~2 pints fresh blueberries

~1 pint fresh blackberries

~2/3 cup raw organic honey

~1 tbsp. cornstarch dissolved in 1/2 tbsp. water

~1 tsp salt

Mix all in bowl and spoon onto crust in spring form pan.  Bake at 350 for approx. 40min.

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  • Reply
    July 17 at 6:48 am

    Hi Red,
    This is a very interesting concept on the personally types. I understand that chronic illness does make you a introvert. I have many health problems among Fibromylgia, multiple chemical sensitivities, many allergies so your really don’t have a choice but to be an introvert.
    I love the recipe. Berries are so healthy and make such delicious desserts and dishes. Thanks for sharing on Real Food Fridays. Pinned & twitted.

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      July 17 at 10:25 am

      Thank you Marla! Hope you are having a great day 😉

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    Fred Garvin
    July 18 at 4:19 pm

    Well played, Red. A most erudite posting that helped me immeasurably.

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    July 18 at 10:02 pm

    – energy levels drained by prolonged social interaction: check,
    – need solitude to ‘recharge’ batteries: check,
    – can’t be bothered to get dressed to go out: check
    This extrovert believes that Fibromyalgia or any chronic pain syndrome makes introverts of us all.
    Thanks for linking up at Fibro Friday I did enjoy this post

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      July 19 at 12:21 am

      Ha!Ha! So true Lee! Although I was an introvert long before chronic illness kicked in! 😉

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    Deborah Brooks
    July 20 at 9:31 am

    Wow! That looks beautiful and delicious! Thanks for linking up for meatless Monday

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      July 20 at 5:00 pm

      Thanks Deborah!

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    Brittany W
    July 20 at 7:37 pm

    I’m an extrovert with chronic illness, and I find it excruciating. I just want to be around people, haha!

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      July 20 at 8:56 pm

      🙁 OH! I’m so sorry Brittany! That would seriously suck! It looks like you have a beautiful family with your husband and small petting zoo! (Except for the fish, don’t pet him, I doubt he’d appreciate it) 🙂 Thank you so much for stoppin’ by darlin’! 😉

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    Cristina at I Say Nomato
    July 21 at 7:21 am

    That blueberry tart sounds incredible! I’m absolutely an introvert (probably an 8!), and I find it so funny when people are like “but you’re so social and friendly!” Yes, I love people, but they wear me out! I need some solitude to recharge or I won’t be friendly for long.

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      July 21 at 8:23 am

      Exactly Cristina! Know just what you mean 🙂

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    Deb Harris
    July 21 at 10:02 am

    I’m also a lifelong introvert with a chronic illness. I’m married to an extrovert who has several guys he’s been friends with since high school. For the most part I’m ok with them & their wives but it took a long time. People he knows from other places were always harder, now physically I can’t do much so uguess it makes it easier.
    I’ve tried multiple times to subscribe to your site but keep getting an error message. I’d really like to subscribe as much as I’ll try to comeback to check your site-I will forget. Don’t know if you have any ideas? Thanks

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      July 21 at 12:45 pm

      HI Deb! I sent you an email about the subscription issue, so look forward to hearing from you soon. It’s tough when your spouse is an extrovert and you are an introvert, and then put chronic illness on top of it all! We extreme introverts only really want one or two close friends, but it’s hard for others to understand that 🙂

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    July 21 at 4:50 pm

    Wow this pie sounds so delicious and fresh!

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      July 21 at 5:04 pm

      Great way to use fresh blueberries! Thanks for stoppin’ Amber! 😉

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    jill conyers
    July 22 at 3:37 am

    Interesting. I was once told I was aloof. Serious misunderstanding of an introvert. The tart sounds delicious and blueberries are so good right now.

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      July 22 at 6:29 am

      Exactly Jill! We are often thought of as ‘judging’ and ‘unfriendly’. We simply like to ‘observe’ while others socially participate. Have great day Jill, thanks for stoppin’!

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    July 22 at 7:40 am

    As a fellow introvert, I must say I can relate! I love those infographics! The thing that drives me nuts the most is people constantly trying to drag me out of my world and telling me that spending more time with people will help my depression, especially when for me it’s likely to make it worse! My alone time is sacred and essential.


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      July 22 at 8:43 am

      Oh MY GOSH!!!! YES!!! I know exactly what you mean! As introverts in a society that favors extroverts, we consistently get the message something is ‘wrong’ with us. It was unbelievably freeing when I learned about Myers Briggs personality types and found out I was created this way! 😉

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      July 22 at 8:49 am

      Oh MY GOSH!! YES!! I know exactly what you mean. As introverts in a society that favors extroverts, we consistently get the message that there is something ‘wrong’ with us. It was unbelievably freeing when I learned about the Myers Briggs personality types and realized I was created this way 😉

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    Kirsten Toyne
    July 22 at 1:06 pm

    It is so true that introverts are often misunderstood. It is partly because our society values extroverts more at the moment. They look good in films and on tv. It is also often confused for shyness but they are different things. Someone can be a shy extrovert which is agony. Great post from a fellow introvert.

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      July 22 at 4:31 pm

      Thanks so much Kirsten! I completely agree, it’s something I actually feel passionate about, being one of those who always felt ‘defective’ in a family that valued extroverted behavior. My next post will be about Myers Briggs, hope you’ll come back and read it 🙂

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    Brandi Clevinger
    July 23 at 4:59 pm

    I’m a 6/7 on the introvert scale. I like how you use “book crammed room” to describe an introvert. I think introverts are usually book worms though. My best friend in West Virginia is an extrovert. She thrives on social interactions. I like being an introvert. My pain levels would be so much worse if I wasn’t. I love the joke about the pants. I loathe jeans. actually, anything that’s not my pajamas I dont’ like wearing. 🙂

    Thank you for sharing your post at #ChronicFridayLinkup! I pinned this post to the Chronic Friday Linkup board at http://www.Pinterest.com/beingfibromom

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      July 23 at 7:36 pm

      Ha! Ha! So true about the pants. 🙂

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    July 28 at 7:41 pm

    Love the concept of the different personality types here. I never really thought about it that way. My hubby is introverty and I am definitely an extrovert. Maybe opposites really do attract. lol Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me, I hope to see you again tomorrow for another great round. #sharewithme

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      July 28 at 8:59 pm

      Thanks Jenny! 😉

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    August 1 at 5:14 am

    I think I’m introverted. I prefer *quiet* alone time while my hubby is a chatterbox and talks more than any 10 women you know! Yet when I am out and about (so very infrequently these days), I’m extremely outgoing and super easy to talk to. We often strike up conversations with people we don’t even know. Maybe working in customer service and the hotel/resort industry for so many years made me that way, maybe I’m just extra special quirky? hehe

    It is true that after being out of the house, no matter how short a time, I need quiet time to recover. More often than not that means a nap too. Angry or negative people drain me so fast that I’ve been known to step in and get the angry/negative person to STFU or get over themselves. Yep, being a supervisor in CS for many years gives me that authoritative “voice” and the courage to step up when I have to. Read about the Highly Sensitive Person here: http://www.livingwithfibromyalgia.ca/highly-sensitive-person/

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      August 1 at 11:53 am

      Ha! Ha! I like your acronym! 😉 Thanks fro the link!

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