Every healer is a doctor, not every doctor is a healer. At least not as far as physicians go. They may not be easy to find, but they are out there. Your health and peace of mind are too important to have to settle for anything less.
As I have mentioned before, I have a wonderful physician. This week I paid a visit to him at his home that also doubles as his office. These visits always leave me feeling heard, encouraged, and most importantly, hopeful.
Many of us with chronic illnesses such as Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome/M.E., develop an almost unconscious mindset that we have to settle for whichever doctor comes our way. Regardless of whether we receive what we need from them, we can develop a sense of subservient obligation to their ‘superior authority’ that leaves us stuck in an unproductive and unhealthy doctor-patient relationship.
Medical treatment is a service. When you pay for services, you expect to receive what you pay for, right? If my hairdresser doesn’t listen to what I ask her for, and gives me a lousy haircut, I don’t slink back into the salon 8 weeks later with my eyes downcast, meekly express my wishes for the cut I’m looking for, and hope this time I walk away with what I paid for. NO! I learn from my experience, and find myself a new hairstylist.
It can take on average 2-6 years, and several doctors to even receive a FMS or CFS diagnosis. At that point, we need to realize that we really do have the power of choice. All too familiar are the stories of uncaring, dismissive doctors who leave their patients feeling misunderstood and undeserving of their medical attention.
There are excellent doctors out there. Doctors who are not ‘tunnel visioned’ in their care of you. In other words, the best doctors are the ones who take a holistic approach to their patients health. Treating the ‘whole’ person, as opposed to simply addressing the obvious malady.
3 Key Traits To Look For When Looking For An Ideal Physician
Time Spent: Does your doctor put aside the time to spend listening and interacting with you beyond the average 7 minute doctor’s office visit? Chances are, if 7-15 minutes are all that is alloted to your visit, there will be vital information not shared, and therefore, important facts missed. A healer/doctor will be less focused on eradicating a particular symptom, and instead, see that symptom as a piece of a puzzle that when completed, will help them understand how best to treat you as a whole individual. No two people are alike, and therefore no two treatment plans should be alike.
Your Own Intuition: What sort of feeling are you getting with your visit? Do you feel relaxed, taken seriously, and validated? Does your doctor make a concerted effort to make you feel at ease with good eye contact and professional concern? A healer loves what he does, and his demeanor shows it.
Open To Alternative Forms Of Medicine: There are forms of medical treatment that go beyond the pharmacy. A good doctor will be open to your suggestions, as well as offering suggestions of his own. At the very least, they should never scoff at anything you are doing, or are interested in trying (provided it’s not harmful) that could possibly be of benefit to you.
A good physician will have you leaving his office feeling better than when you walked in. Finding one is not easy, but it is worth it, and you are worth it!