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Flex Your Inner Beast ~ How Not To Compare Your Pain Levels With Another Spoonie

Physical pain is a muscle. And like any muscle, the more it gets used the stronger it becomes. In fact, those with chronic pain (pain at some level most of the time) become the equivalent of ‘strong men’ due to the endless flexing of their ‘pain muscle’. This is one of the reasons why many people with chronic illnesses like FMS don’t seem ‘sick’ to others. We build high pain tolerances in response to our daily ‘workouts’. pain2
I was in a conversation last night where I found myself comparing my symptoms to another person I know who has Fibromyalgia.  This poor individual has crippling migraines so bad they lay her out for days.  This is obviously terrible, and I am unbelievably fortunate enough not to have to deal with this particular symptom.  But what I realized later, was that I sold myself short.  I felt almost guilty that my levels of pain were not ‘as bad’ as someone else’s, so I represented my experience in a way that you’d think I had an occasional ‘body twinge’ that caused me pause.  Seriously?  I’m in pain to some degree or another all the time,  just like everyone else with FMS.  I did a disservice to myself by being apologetic that my experience was not as ‘bad’ as another’s.  As if in a ‘competition of miseries’ I should be disqualified.

paine Which got me thinking about pain tolerance.  I do have a high pain tolerance.  Being a redhead also helps (we are actually akin to genetic mutants and posses genes that give us an edge over certain types of pain).  No, seriously, it’s science man! But, I truly believe everyone out there who deals with chronic illness develops higher pain tolerances than most.  How can you not?  ‘Get it’ you Beautiful Beasts, you!



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~Healthier ‘Street Style’ Tacos & Salsa~

(this salsa is the taste of my childhood, it’s simple/different and what mi mama always made {I know, I don’t look Mexican, I’m adopted, don’t be a hater)


~corn tortillas

~refined coconut oil

~ground turkey or chicken

~garlic salt

~shredded lettuce

~shredded extra sharp cheddar cheese


Heat oil in pan.  ‘Fry’ tortillas on each side only so long as they barely begin to bubble.  They should be firm but still foldable.  Drain each on paper towel. Drain all but about 1 tbsp. oil out of pan and cook ground meat, season with garlic salt.  Fill tortillas with meat, fold over and arrange on baking sheet. Bake approx. 10 min at 350.  Fill with condiments and salsa.


~My Mother’s Salsa~

~can of whole tomatoes, chopped

~1 whole sweet (like Vidalia) onion, chopped

~5-7 yellow chilies (these must be the right ones, find them where they sell pickles), chopped


(does not have to be this brand, but HAS to be this kind of hot chili, NOT banana peppers!)

Combine all in mixing bowl along with about 1/4 cup of juice from chili jar.  Season with a little sea salt and lots of pepper.

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  • Reply
    July 24 at 1:15 pm

    I love tacos! Yours looks great!

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      July 24 at 1:34 pm

      Thanks! 🙂

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    Brandi Clevinger
    July 27 at 10:35 am

    I know what you mean about selling yourself short. I often do the same thing. We must remember that no matter how much worse someone may have the same condition, we cannot minimize our pains and experiences. We are each different individuals, and what may be a terrible symptom for you, may not be for me and the other way around.

    Thank you for sharing your perspective at #ChronicFridayLinkup! I pinned your post to the Chronic Friday Linkup board at http://www.Pinterest.com/beingfibromom

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      July 27 at 2:12 pm

      Too true Brandi! 🙂

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    Kirsten Toyne
    July 29 at 12:17 am

    Well done for spotting when you were doing yourself a disservice. Your tacos are making me hungry! #sharewithme

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      July 29 at 8:31 am

      THanks Kirsten! Have a great day 😉

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    July 29 at 4:08 am

    It is very true that living with chronic pain or a chronic condition makes you sort of become super tolerant. My last neighbor has fibromyalgia and even though I knew she was in incredible pain most days, I would always see her running after her kids and working in the yard. She would just get on with things, and I think when a person does have to manage their life around pain and discomfort, it does become second nature, unfortunately. The same was true of my father while he was dying of cancer. My heart goes out to people suffering like this. Also, I never knew that about redheads! My sister-in-law is a redhead and Swedish and we always joke about how she’s Pippi Longstocking because she’s really strong, both physically and mentally! 🙂

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      July 29 at 8:36 am

      Ha! Ha! So true Erin, redheads do have a slightly different genetic makeup that makes us a little different. Some of the stereotypes are true! 🙂 So sorry about your dad. I have family members alive and passed with cancer, it’s tough to see them go through it. Thank you for stoppin’ and for your words of encouragement 🙂

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    Life Breath Present
    July 29 at 5:27 am

    Just might have tacos tonight, thanks to your post! 🙂

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      July 29 at 8:36 am

      Do! They are awesome! 😉

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    My Life In Sweden
    July 30 at 1:18 am

    A very interesting post. And you can never go wrong with tacos! :p

    Found your blog through the Thursday Favorite Things Blog Hop!

    Greetings from Sweden!

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      July 30 at 7:47 am

      Hi Sweden! Thank you very much 🙂 Is there any good Mexican food in Sweden? Love to know those kind of things, have a wonderful day! 😉

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    Gail Akeman
    August 1 at 8:49 am

    Thank you for linking up to the Small victories Sunday linkup party. Please join again.Pinned to the group board.

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    August 2 at 5:40 pm

    Tacos look and sound amazing Yum. I think sometimes we all do this in some degree trying to compete when we are not well, or if someone is hurting or more sick then us. It’s human nature to slip into that. You are aware of it and that’s huge difference. Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me #sharewithme

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      August 2 at 7:00 pm

      Yes, we can be disproportionate and be selfish, or swing the other way and not give our situations enough credit. Balance is the hardest thing- Have a terrific week Jenny!

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    Miz Helen
    August 3 at 2:41 pm

    I want to give your Salsa a try sometime, the flavor looks awesome! Thanks so much for sharing with Full Plate Thursday and come back to see us real soon!
    Miz Helen

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      August 3 at 9:26 pm

      They are delicious, thank you 😉

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