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Fibromyalgia And The Importance Of Healthy Coping Methods

May 7

I have had Fibromyalgia for years.  In November of 2014 I was officially diagnosed.  Fibromyalgia Syndrome (FMS) is a series of symptoms based off of the failure of the nervous system to function in a healthy manner.  Trauma both physical as well as emotional seem to be a common factor in people who develop this chronic illness.  Within the general population only around 4% of the population have FMS and the overwhelming majority of that figure are women.

Fibromyalgia & the importance of healthy coping methods

It can be a frustrating issue for many reasons.  It is known as an ‘invisible’ illness.  In other words, you may never know someone has FMS unless they tell you.  We become very good at masking the pain.  If we were to let what we feel on the inside show,  believe me, you wouldn’t hang around us for long.  Everyone’s brain produces a chemical that is associated with pain called Chemical P.  People with FMS produce more Chem P than everyone else.  Hence we feel pain for no reason,  have an exaggerated pain response to stimuli, and experience a  heightened ‘fight or flight’ response.

fibro1Now, I’m telling you none of this to garner any sympathy.  I share this only to bring about understanding.  It is hard to understand why that person you know with FMS is always tired, or never seems to feel good when they look fine, or why they gasp in pain when all you did was take their hand.  It’s a Bitch.  For those who have it and for those who have to deal with us.  But, there are some fairly fundamental things we can do to help manage the symptoms.  Please be aware, what works for one FMS patient does not work for another, these are just the things that help me:

~’Chill’ Music:

~Creating and surrounding myself with a beautiful and peaceful environment.  I planted a very humble vegetable garden in the fall (yes I know, but I live in Arizona).


My lovely zucchini~




Cilantro (obviously)~



 Mi pequeno jardin~

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  • Reply Brandi Clevinger May 14 at 5:55 pm

    Hello! I’m Brandi, a fellow fibro fighter and blog at Being Fibro Mom. Thank you for sharing information about fibromyalgia especially during this month of Fibromyalgia Awareness.

    I just started caring for plants in the last four to six weeks and it is a huge stress reliever for me! It’s so calming and that is key to fibromyalgia.

    Thank you for sharing your information at Inspire Me Monday!

    • Reply kristine May 14 at 9:29 pm

      Wooo! No kidding Brandi! The more I pay attention to my body, the more I realize that the smallest amount of stress can bring about a ‘hellacious’ flare up. I need all the ‘calm’ I can get. Thank you so much for your comment, and I’m so glad I found your blog 🙂

  • Reply Brandi Clevinger May 14 at 7:04 pm

    Your post was one of my two favorite posts at last week’s Inspire Me Monday. It will be featured during next week’s Inspire Me Monday linkup on my blog at

    I pinned your post to the group board, Inspire Me Monday, at

    See you next week at the linkup!

  • Reply kristine May 14 at 9:30 pm

    Thanks so much Brandi! I’ll be sure to promote the feature 🙂

  • Reply All that's Jas May 16 at 6:40 pm

    It’s hard to imagine what you go through. Glad you found things that work for you, though. Thanks for linking up at Thursday Favorite Things!

  • Reply kristine May 16 at 7:49 pm

    Thanks Jas! There is SO much to be thankful for 🙂
    I enjoyed linking up 🙂

  • Reply Janice Wald May 17 at 6:53 pm

    I was going to tell you about Brandi, one of our Inspire Me Monday hostesses, but it looks like she beat me to it. Welcome to the Inspire Me Monday Linky Party. Thank you for linking up with us. I’m Janice, one of your hostesses.

  • Reply kristine May 17 at 11:22 pm

    Hi Janice! Thank you!

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  • Reply Jenny May 18 at 12:21 pm

    I love your post because they help me better understand my sister’s FMS and maybe I can pass on your tips to cope with it as I worry about her so very much. Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me #sharewithme

  • Reply kristine May 18 at 12:38 pm

    That’s wonderful Jenny! I’m so happy to help, I was unclear which direction this blog should take but I think I may have found it’s niche. Although it is estimated that 4-6% of population has FMS, I believe it to be much higher, but due to misdiagnosis as well as many doctor’s reluctance to accept FMS as a legitimate illness, many people are suffering from this and unable to move forward towards better health. The criteria for diagnosis is changing though (which I will write about in my next post), so there is hope! Best of luck and ‘gentle hugs’ to your sister 🙂

  • Reply Deborah Davis May 19 at 10:19 am

    A dear friend of mine is suffering from fibromyalgia so I can’t wait to share this post with her. Like many, she has been prescribed lots of meds that are not working well for her, so I value this helpful natural information. Thank you for sharing Fibromyalgia And The Importance Of Healthy Coping Methods with us at the Healthy Happy Green and Natural Party! I am pinning and sharing!

  • Reply kristine May 19 at 11:44 am

    Great to hear from you Deborah! So sorry to hear about your friend. Yeah, those meds are kind of a dual edged sword. There are some natural medicines that I use and would recommend. The trick is to find a good doctor who is open to ‘alternative’ solutions. She is more than welcome to email me where I can discuss further the pain relief methods I use 🙂

  • Reply Joan Ravenhorst July 8 at 4:21 pm

    I have had fybromylia for about 25yrs,with cronic back pain,I had many cortinzone shots in both of my hips,been on several med’s,after a bad experience with some very strong meds,I am caution now about what I take.I live in pain every day,many people don’t understand this condition! SoI am caution to let others know how I really feel.The bad days out number the good ones! I tend to rest alot and I suffer from insomia and all the symtons that go with fybro!You can not fake this condion! It is so painful at times.I try to live a full life with my family but is very difficult at times.I don’t want sympathy,just for others to be knowlegeable about fybromylia. I have tried diets and physio and other treatments,but it is hard to deal with at times.I too planted a garden with my husband this year,I try to have much of a life with our children and grandchildren as often as I can! So I do know what it is like to suffer as others I have heard about.Nice to find this website,thank you for being there for me.

    • Reply kristine July 8 at 10:18 pm

      Thank you for such a lovely comment Joan. I know exactly what you are going through, in fact I just had a conflict with my husband last night over my condition. Others who love us try to understand, but it’s hard for them to truly ‘get it’. It’s why I absolutely LOVE the community of FMS and chronic illness sufferers. Just to know there are others out there that understand makes coping so much easier. And thank you so much for following! Have a truly wonderful day, and hang in there my sister! 😉

  • Reply Lisa July 9 at 9:32 am

    i have been suffering for probably close to 23 years but just got diagnosed this year. I am very thankful I found your website. I too suffer from the insomnia part of FMS. The Drs used to give Ambien CRS , but now I have been given Trazedone. He said this will also help will the pain. Not so far!! There are days I can’t even get out of bed!! I am glad to hear of your gardening experience and want to start my own this next year.

    • Reply kristine July 9 at 10:37 am

      Thank you so much Lisa, what a lovely comment! I’m so sorry, and doesn’t it just suck so much! At the risk of being ‘edgy’, do you live in state where medical cannabis is legal? Do some research and talk to a good physician about this as a ‘opiate’ alternative pain reliever. Have a wonderful day my precious girl! 🙂

  • Reply jean holmes July 9 at 2:39 pm

    Hi everyone.I was told in 1990 that I had fibro.but because I wasn’t given any other input I got better after a while ,remition, so then I had numerous visits to Dr.not sent anywhere just sent away with paracetamol.eventually it got so bad.I came away crying from my gp.the spine pain was horrendous. A young lady asked what was wrong.I told her how iv been coming to the Dr twenty years and he does nothing.she said it sounded like I said.oh.I had it years ago.phff.I went on my comp.and then I printed out all the fibro symptoms and all mine and I went back and told him.I even got the letter from the hospital and gave it him.I soon got an app.with a rheumy.I was turned 60 then i!m 69later this year.I cannot believe they let me suffer for twenty years.don’t give up hope folks,I’m feeling lots better

    • Reply kristine July 9 at 2:54 pm

      Thank you so much for sharing your experience Jean! I’m positive that will bring encouragement to those out there who feel misunderstood and dismissed by the health care profession. I hope you are doing somewhat better. Have a wonderful day Jean, and thank you again 😉

  • Reply krista white January 20 at 7:46 pm

    thanks for your sharing

    • Reply kristine January 20 at 10:08 pm

      thank you 🙂

  • Reply Sheila Hanson May 29 at 9:58 pm

    Thank you for all comments and imfo on fibro.its weird…hard to tell how you feel all the time..
    So how is everyone coping with depression..with fibro…?

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