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Depression And The Holidays ~ Encouragement For The Heavy Heart

December 6

“Hap, Happiest Tiiime Of The Yeaaarrr!”….my arse.

For many people, depression and the holidays go together like sprinkles and sugar cookies. I’ve known several people down through the years who actually dread this time of year. You may be one of them. There are several reasons one may feel less than cheerful during this Season:

  • loss of a loved one

  • memories of traumatic childhood where the holidays were basically a living Hell

  • financial troubles leading to the likelihood of a ‘lean’ Christmas

  • family troubles/issues with; marriage, children, extended family ect.

  • feeling physically crappy, and unable to participate as you would have in the past

We live in a commercialized society where the ‘expectations’ of how Christmas ‘should’ be are screamed at us from every corner in the land from September 1st to December 24th. It can be a strenuous time, exacerbated by the pressure to experience some sort of ‘magical’ white dream, where laughter & delight flow like chocolate lava down the ‘Sugar Coated Marshmallow Mountains’ of ‘Sugar Plum Forest’…but what if that’s not your reality?

Depression and the holidays can range anywhere from feeling a little bummed out, to a full-fledged weight of dark hopelessness. So, let’s accept whatever it is/wherever we are…and know that, well, its OK. Just let yourself off the hook for a minute. Know that you can let the burden of having to be ‘happy’ right now, just slide off your shoulder. Just be where you are. Take a deep breath…you’re alright.

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Depression And The Holidays ~ Encouragement For The Heavy Heart

  1. Don’t worry about what you or others think this time of year ‘should’ be. The burden of ‘happiness’ (yours or someone else’s) is not yours to carry. ‘Happy’ is just an emotion. Like all emotions, they come and go. Our personal responsibility is how we act and react within those emotions, not the emotions themselves.

  2. Like all other times of the year, there is the good and the bad. Cope as you know how with what is less than ‘ideal’, and simply enjoy those moments where the good things float up and shine there on the surface for awhile.

  3. Know this: No matter how bad things are right now, it never lasts. Wherever there are hard times, there are better days coming. Nothing lasts forever in our time on Earth, and life is an ebb and flow of light & dark. It always, eventually gets better.

  4. Seek out help if you need it: Suicide Prevention Hotline ~ Call 1-800-273-8255

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Depression And The Holidays ~ Encouragement For The Heavy Heart

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6 Comments

  • Reply jeremy@thirstydaddy December 7 at 2:44 pm

    This is a very tough time of the year for so many people. I just today heard about a suicide in our extended circle of friends a few days ago. Thank you for the reminder not only to look after our own wellness, but to be aware of others who may be suffering #waywow

    • Reply kristine December 7 at 4:13 pm

      I am so sorry for your loss Jeremy…it just stops you in your tracks, you know. Heartbreaking…God bless ♥

  • Reply Nikki December 7 at 9:10 pm

    In our little family there are things that have changed this year, it will be the first year we’re not altogether at home. That is a bummer, but we are all still here and alive and we will be spending time together just not the way we used to. That does make me sad, but I am also thankful. I know that the kids will grow up and leave, I’m just not ready for it yet. So our Christmas won’t be as big as it used to be, but we all know how lucky we are to have each other and that will be enough.
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    • Reply kristine December 7 at 9:38 pm

      Sometimes ‘change’ really sucks, doesn’t it Nikki? I am comforted a little by the fact that when things get ‘taken away’ or change, there is always something to take its place. Where there is an ‘end’, there seems always to be a new ‘beginning’. Merry Christmas my friend ♥

  • Reply Janet March 31 at 2:46 pm

    A very resourceful post, Kristine! Although people are now talking about depression, no one really pays attention to the holidays depression. Thank you for bringing it into view. I would have loved to hear some tips or strategies on how to cope with this. Still, a very brilliant post.
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    • Reply kristine March 31 at 3:36 pm

      Thank you Janet 🙂 As far as tips and stategies, give the video a watch. There is great advice there~

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